As a long-time Linux geek, I've discovered that there are nice aspects of GNOME/KDE, and then there's all the horrifying bits. After almost 20 years of desktop Linux use, I've concluded that "lighter is better." I.e. there's no real benefit to having all the bells and whistles turned on. That's what lead me to OpenBox.
Anyone who has run OpenBox is familiar with ~/.config/openbox/autostart.sh... or at least they should be. In case you aren't, here's the crux of it -- the autostart.sh script runs when OB starts-up, and its the vehicle through which you can start all the bits and pieces of the desktop that you might need. Here's my autostart.sh:
#
# Openbox config for the ultimate desktop
#
#### policykit manager
# allows us to manage networks and other things that require root priv.
(sleep 10 && /usr/lib/policykit-1-gnome/polkit-gnome-authentication-agent-1) &
#### gnome settings daemon
# allows us to use the gnome tools for things like display and mouse
(gnome-settings-daemon) &
#### mount encrypted disks and set desktop wallpaper
(/home/cjs/bin/mntenc && nitrogen --set-zoom-fill /home/cjs/mine/pics/backgrounds/current.jpg ) &
#### Enable power management
# we use xfce because the gnome-power-manager went away (as a systray icon anyways)
#(gnome-power-manager) & #this went away in Debian Sid around Dec '11
(xfce4-power-manager) &
#### Thunar Daemon
# handles automounting disks, etc.
(thunar --daemon) &
#### Tint2
# our panel
(tint2) &
#### Screensaver
(xscreensaver -no-splash) &
#### Synapse
# synapse is a key-stroke app-launcher, like Gnome-DO
(synapse -s) &
#### DropBox
# sync files between multiple systems
(sleep 2s && dropbox start) &
## Launch network manager applet
# 2012/01/07 -- this has been getting launched twice, presumably by gnome-settings-daemon?
#(sleep 4s && nm-applet) &
#### volumeicon
# allows us to control volume from an icon in the system tray
(sleep 3s && volumeicon) &
#### Clipboard manager
# parcellite is a bigger/better utility
(sleep 3s && parcellite) &
## start xsnow!
#(sleep 3s && xsnow -notrees -nokeepsnow -nosanta) &
So, in case all of this is completely Greek to you, I've included comments. This script works provided you've got tint2, parcellite, xscreensaver, dropbox, volumeicon, and thunar installed, and in your execution path. This script also assumes that you've got the default GNOME desktop installed for such things as settings and authentication. The point being is that you can use this even on the default Debian 6 install, and achieve a highly functional desktop without the overhead you'd experience with a full GNOME or KDE desktop.